Inconsideration

Today, I will not be talking about DJ stuff. I will not be talking about music. I won't be talking about my girl problems or my money problems... I will not be talking about J*Phoenix at all today. I'm leaving me out of this one.

The reason being, there's something else I need to talk about. I need to rant.

It's funny, because a little over a year ago, I talked about a subject like the one on tap for today in two posts: This one and this one. I talked about it because one of my close friends brought a problem to me with a male, and I wanted to voice my opinion on it. I suggest you read those first before this one. Because now here we are again, a new friend who is likewise very close to me, has a new problem with a new male and now I must voice my opinion again.

Allow me to make a disclaimer: I am not saying I am perfect. I am not saying I am all-knowing. I certainly also am not saying that I have not done wrong doings to women in my prior history. All I will be ranting about is this crappy situation a male has been creating for my close friend, and how I feel about it.

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It's a crying shame. It's always one guy, ain't it? Every girl has one. Some have two or three or ten... but there's ALWAYS one.

And like I've said in those other posts, it's the one stupid asshole that fucks it up for all of us nice guys out there.

I think its time for a little lesson in consideration for others. This can be generalized too - it's not just for ex girlfriends or current girlfriends or just friends, or complete strangers... no, being considerate should be reserved for everyone that interacts with anyone else on this earth. Let's define it, first:

con‧sid‧er‧ate [kuhn-sid-er-it] –adjective
1. showing kindly awareness or regard for another's feelings, circumstances, etc.: a very considerate critic. (citation)

Now THERE's a friggin' concept! What ever happened to a little of that?

That is all important, but the reason I'm talking about all of this is because of a friend of mine that has been hurt, several times, by a very INconsiderate male. Perhaps inconsiderate is not the only issues, perhaps he's immature, unexperienced, untrained... maybe its that he was crazy in love with this girl and there was a bad break up but whatever it was - his actions are completely unacceptable.

Let me make a statement: There is NEVER a reason to verbally attack someone over and over and over again, for your personal gain. It does not matter how much hate you have, how much bad blood between two people, there is no reason, ever... EVER to barade someone with such hurtful words that makes the person feel less of themself.

So I am a little pissed off.

What is wrong with these guys? Who the fuck do they think they are? What makes them think they can say such hurtful things to a women?

I've been set off once or twice, in my anger saying things I would later regret, or just feel bad for being so harsh... we've all done it. But to make a point to try and make someone feel like shit on a daily basis is grounds for an ass whooping. This time we're not talking about cheating or screwing up, this is someone purposely making remarks that he knows will have an effect on the girl.

It's not her fault... well... it's her fault if she lets him get to her - but no one likes to be badgered like that. Perhaps things can be solved with a restraining order - to get the point across - but that could just tie up some more issues.

What gives any man the right to make a girl feel like shit? Revenge? That's bullshit. If its revenge you want, then find it on your own accord and keep it to yourself. There's no room on this Earth for hurtful comments, barages of nasty emails and text messages, and saying things you know can hurt her.

There's not much to this message. I shouldn't have to go on all day about this. But this is just another example of how one guy can fuck it all up for the rest of us. Gentlemen: We're working on a reputation here... we have to stick together on this one! We have to start treating women better or they are gonna hate us all forever and then what would we do huh?

Here's a quick lesson: If she's your ex, leave her alone. End of story. You can try again, or go for the friends thing, but if it doesn't work out - let go. Don't hate her, don't sit there and play with her emotions and fuck with her head. Don't send stupid emails or texts or leave voicemails that are hurtful - this is the basics people!

I shouldn't even have to talk about this at all. But I guess some people just don't get it.

Guys: Stop it. Stop being so damn STUPID - stop being the asshole and stop treating women like shit. You have no idea how good you could have it if you just played it nice for once! I can't stand hearing these stories any more cause it makes me hate even myself for being apart of the male sex.

Girls: Don't let guys stupidity get you down. The thing you have to remember is that not all guys are like this. There are some out there that really do just want to please the women, and work together with them. There are men out there that know that once it's over, it's over, and they know how to move on and be considerate of the other person's feelings. But the ones that don't know, the men that don't want to... they can go to hell.

That's all. To the one that this is about... hang in there. Don't give up because of this jerk off wants to TRY to make your life miserable. As I said before - to him being one person that hates you, there's 100 people that love you, so don't let him get to you.

Let's start having some consideration for our women, gentlemen.

Have a day.


citation "considerate." Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.0.1). Based on the Random House Unabridged Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2006. 02 Oct. 2006. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/considerate